I often try switch into Flâneur mode, and even do it in a bit more extreme levels in at a least twice a year! What makes it more extreme is picking a place I’ve never been before, and go there without making any plan.
In such travels, the only things I plan are;
nothing else! The rest? Just figure out on the way.
Through such travels I discover things, even better, discoveries comes my way.
I regard such experiences as the power of randomness!
Here comes a discovery from one of my recent adventures…
While walking randomly through the streets of that new city, I ended up in a small book shop.
Actually their motto attracted me to go inside, as it said , “preloved books” . The interior looked more like Library of Shadows !
As it happens, in that place no books are for sale, but all for share & read only! You can pick one from hundreds of books, enjoy reading together with coffee or tea. All books are preloved, second hand, and waiting patiently for your reading!
So I randomly picked and skimmed through to few of them. Open a random page, and begin reading, let the book pulls me into reading more, if not pick another one … After couple of tries, I ended up reading one of them, of which I do not remember its name right now. Coffee, and homemade muffin, made it extra enjoyable read. Though the story itself is what made it unique discovery!
The story goes like this …
As a metaphor our communication style, there are four types of cups:
1) turned upside down.
you can pour as much as you want, nothing goes inside! everything keeps spilling around it …
2) turned upside, but there are holes at the bottom.
Whatever you pour in goes out instantly, nothing stays inside.
As an example; you read a book, you talk about it in book words, but the day after all is gone. nothing remains!
3) turned upside, but there are some other stuff inside.
Whatever you pour in it, mixes it up with what’s there already.
As an example, let’s say there’s chocolate inside the cup.
Everything related to chocolate is accepted as affirmation, all the rest is rejected by default!
Especially this version makes me think a lot, because I argue that we come across this type of cups the most often!
Think about it … how many times we communicate, or read something, without hearing, “I know i know” uttered constantly?!
4) turned upside, completely empty the cup.
Whatever you pour in is received with clarity. It’s like; Always learning with beginner’s mind… Listen, digest, and understand!
When you listen to someone, or read something, you do it with the style of being an empty cup. It’s not "Yes, BUT", but more of trying to understand and elaborate with full attention.
This type aims to achieve understanding, to digest whatever comes their way.
It’s is easy to say, hard to do. Though, I do believe that this style is what we should strive for, all the time!
Being an empty cup is very powerful and rewarding, it makes us better in communication and so we grow all together!
Our motto shall be… Always Learning!
Till the next post … Keep Calm, and Smile :-)
I love watching football, preferably league matches.
One of the things, besides many others, inspires me is the determination of all players in every condition.
Even when team-A is 10-to-1 ahead, team-B never gives up and keeps going till the last minute. And still they try to score, at least one more goal!
Surely, the rules doesn’t allow leaving the field till the end, but again none of the players slows down nor completely disconnect from the game, till the final whistle!
It’s is a virtue, a fundamental principle, to carry on by maintaining your attitude with determination, till the last minute!
Even if you know that the match is already lost, you should keep on playing till the last moment.
Determination and patience is an unbeatable combination!
Let it be the best match you experience, even more important than the final score, and play it with all your might, till the end!
And remember, it’s not only a single match, it’s just yet another one of the continuous adventure. You may lose in a single match, what matters is to learn from it so that you can improve, and keep moving ahead.
“Once more into the fray. Into the last good fight I’ll ever know. Live and die on this day.”
— quote from The Grey
It’s easy to confuse them with each other, sometimes intentionally but more often unconsciously. Though, we shall be aware of the dangers of mixing them up!
Passion pulls you into doing good things, creating value, sharing, caring… Often it brings positive feelings altogether, even though it also inspires hard work.
On the other hand, ambition can make you blind. And you may even become blind to your own blindness. This often brings frustration, working overtime, competition, … Ambition stands on a thin line, and you never realise when you slip into the dark side, vanity!
This reminds me of the movie; The Devil’s Advocate. He becomes so engaged with his ambition, he doesn’t realise when he slips into the vanity side! Till he destroys everything around him just to achieve his ambitious goals. Though the biggest harm happens on himself, with a bitter form of blindness!
If you allow ambition control your path, you become aggressive and begin destroying everything around you, and even yourself.
Notice that even at the most important tournaments, the winning side shows gratitude to the losing side, and the same happens the other way around.
It’s a virtue, to show gratitude by maintaining respect in every condition.
Success is more delightful when it pulls you, let it sweetly happen by itself, along the way. If you push for it too hard, you may end up breaking it into pieces, irreversible forms!
Let there be lightness in your path, sharpness with your actions, and always a respectful attitude.
It’s never a zero-sum game!
It gets better, and more joyful, when you have common goals, work together and share your journey.
Keep calm, and Smile :-)
Whenever I go out, my preference is places with a story, a character. Part of that, I also try to find out if the owner and employees are also the customer of that place. If it is a bakery, see if they eat what they bake, etc. Having food or drink in a place which is just yet another place, has no meaning at all!
Today I want talk about a golden lesson I’ve learned from the last training session (*).
We were going thru regular exercises, warming up, stretching etc.
Almost half an hour passed, and still I’m not able to concentrate, my mind is full of thoughts! Then I began failing miserably, in every exercise with no exception!
Especially, in the pairing part I couldn’t do any of the techniques, as easy as it may seem from outside.
Anxiety took over me like a rain-shower, and this even made it look like I’m distracting the whole team. My natural reaction was a thought of even quitting, and that made me feel even worse!
Then, I noticed that all other practitioners pairing and helping me even more with each exercise, without blaming or pressure or …
I kept hearing this “it’s ok to fail. try again, keep trying!” with a calm smile.